A same sex attracted reader wrote to me:

>> I feel like in your same sex marriage article you completely ignored the marriage component. Okay, you’re against the polygamous, sex-addicted gay community. Now that’s a stereotype. Alright, some people in the gay community (a lot, actually) are like that. However, gay, straight, or otherwise I’m looking for love, not sex. The same goes for quite a few gay people I know. And once we’re at this point, what if I am gay and looking for love. Does God want me to not love? Does God want me to not be loved? I think God wants me to be happy.

I have a separate article on gay marriage here. My experience www.GayTestimony.com  is that gay sex is unhealthy. It doesn't matter whether that sex is because of "love" or "lust"...

>>Again, you jump straight to gay sex. What if I was to marry somebody of the same sex and have it be a purely romantic relationship? Using your argument, it wouldn’t be unhealthy, right?

The word Marriage is understood to involve sex... in fact in Catholicism, if it is not consumated, there is no sacramental marriage.
That's why gay marriage could never exist in Catholicism...  I've probably been in the gay community as much as you, and we both know that sex is what holds the community together. I remember a trusted leader in the movement saying.. "gay sex is the only thing we have in common as a community, otherwise there's not much many of us have in common with one another."

>> Also, when you say “unhealthy,” what do you mean exactly?  

Everything:

• Physical. Here's a good article by a doctor http://www.catholiceducation.org/articles/homosexuality/ho0075.html
• Emotional which I can personally say is very damaging check out the stats of suicide, partner abuse, depression, medication, psychiatric care... every guy I knew in the community was on some sort of medslike prozac.  This was worse where same sex is accepted like San Fran, Netherlands and Grenwich VIllage. So I don't think it's because of nonacceptance...
• Spiritual which every major religious text of 5000 years of civilization says causes spiritual harm... I can tell you that I'm doing 10 times better these days spiritually without the sex. My meditation time is amazing. Much better than sex, or even cuddling or whatever you want to euphemize it as.

I think what you are really looking for is true love and you will never be happy as long as you look for that from people before finding it in God. Love does not always say yes to every desire of the heart... because the heart is fickle. I promise you, you will not be happy in the long run if you go your current direction. There is a better way. It is a great life.
 
Anyway... you sound like a young guy who's trying to figure this all out... and that's cool... I pray you don't loose everything in your search... like I did...you remind me of myself. If you ever really want help you get free of the sex, porn etc...  I would go to great lengths to help you. But achademic sparing is not my scene, I'm a musician.
 
May God bless you.

David MacDonald